So I am always the friend willing to listen, girlfriend issues, boyfriend issues, marriage issues. You name it I have heard it. Its been a while since I gave some hardcore relationship advice on the blog. Today I want to share my very humble opinion on why I think relationships don't work.
#1 Getting way to comfortable:
People forget to care about the details. Its that simple. I often hear the words "he/she just started being lazy in the relationship" with it going into more details like " when I met him he always took care of himself/ when I met her she used to dress up and care about what I thought". Trust me when I say this that kind of laziness can get super annoying when its not a once in a while kind of thing. Its very awesome when you can just let you hair (no offence bald guys reading this, you know what I mean) down, but don't forget that sassy self love is what got them to stop and get to know you. Lil Wayne said it " DON'T EVER GET TO COMFORTABLE". Don't all of a sudden think you can go from a sexy confident put together man/women to hobo I ain't washed in a week etc and still have the person you with think damn I still want you. You changed so now your person will change, its just the way things work.
#2 Taking the good things for granted:
I once heard guy say "I don't want to cook for my women because I am afraid she will stop cooking for me on a regular basis." in my mind I was like whaaaaaat *insert confused look here*. Let me just say this nothing is sexier than having a man cook for you. Its also kind of disturbing knowing that if a women is good to you then you will actually stop being good to her. Now it goes both ways like a women who has a man who goes that extra mile for her, he buys you flowers, organizes romantic gestures and you never stop to even acknowledge it? stop that crazy behavior right this second. Taking things for granted = RESENTMENT!
|~I have to agree with miss Liebenberg~|
#3 Not thinking about the person you with:
Every relationship is different but the fundamental parts are the same, two people who met each other and felt so happy that their hearts did a happy dance and tummy's done back flips. Lets go back to the very first chat you had "so what are your interests?" or "what are your do's and don'ts" or "what are your deal breakers?" do you see a pattern ? that getting to know each other part is what got you blissfully through the honey moon phase. Honeymoon phase ends and couples think oh now its time for me to "just be me" because now we in love. No! guys in my past have been dumped for the same deal breakers I told them about in that first conversation. To me getting lazy in the relationship is one of my deal breakers. Only because in time I have learned when people stop working at the relationship it will not last.
Simply put its about constant work, any couple in a healthy happy relationship will tell you that. Its really easy getting into a lazy rut, but if you want your relationship to last you have to work on it. Be nice to each other, keep doing special things for each other and if both parties want to be in the relationship you should be good to go. Let me end this post with these lyrics "I'm not saying this to shake you up, I'm just saying this to wake you up."
So here's a question for you, why do you think relationships just stop working?
~Disclaimer: I am not a relationship therapist or guru.~
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